If you have ever gone from fine to screaming in what felt like a single second, and spent the hours afterwards carrying a shame that does not lift cleanly — this post is for you.

Mum rage in ADHD and autistic mothers is not a character flaw and it is not the same as general maternal frustration. It sits at the intersection of three distinct clinical experiences — mum rage, ADHD rage, and autistic meltdown and shutdown — that the research has studied separately but never integrated. Until now.

This post brings those three bodies of evidence together, explains the mechanism behind why the rage arrives without warning, and names four specific reasons why motherhood is the trigger. It also covers what actually helps — upstream and downstream — for a brain that processes the world differently.

You are not a bad mother. You are an under-supported one.

This ritual is so healing and profound that it is applicable for any time and period of a woman's life. I have facilitate it to woman, that had experience a beautiful and empowering birth, but also to those that had a more difficult one and needed a safe space to start to process it. I have facilitate it to woman that wanted to close their breastfeeding cycle. And I have facilitate it to woman that experience loss.